...after all, who doesn't have them?
F.W.B.
1. Dr. Ross called me twice in one week to ask me for very basic info: once to ask for Sylvie's primary guardian's cell phone number, and once to ask for a recent graduate of Organization X's number. Really? She doesn't have this information, but I do? Shouldn't I be calling her with questions like that? Trying to cut her some slack, I thought maybe she was out of the office and didn't have access to that info. But I was out driving around both times when she called and I had that info on me. Wtf.
2. She essentially blamed all the cell phone drama on us houseparents, asking why we didn't notice that Sylvie and N hadn't been talking for two weeks. The reality is, I rarely see any two kids together after school--they're racing around to various extracurricular activities, doing homework, eating dinner at different times. And when the scholars do socialize, it's usually in their rooms, where houseparents aren't hanging out. Surely Dr. Ross doesn't think we saw them being mean to each other and just ignored it... I also take issue with her assuming she knows what goes on in the house, seeing as how she's never BEEN to our house since I've been here (Ms. Graw has been at least 3 times).
3. This one needs a little backstory: the first thing that the ASC from last year told me is, DON'T get sucked into doing filing and office work; it's not your job. Caroline told me the same thing; it's NOT your job. Dr. Ross made all 3 ASC's set up specific times when we were going to come into the office and do paperwork. I decided, rather than stirring up a big conflict, I just straight up wasn't going to come when I said I was. I have no other reason to come into the office, and it's not my job. Evidently, the other ASC's did the same thing. So at this meeting, Dr. Ross and Ms. Graw confronted us about how no one was doing the filing. They were complaining that they were behind and about to get in trouble and that we needed to come in. One ASC just didn't say anything, another very politely said she didn't know this was a priority, and I just got annoyed and started saying I didn't have time to come into the office, it was out of my way and I needed to go home and make dinner for the girls (this was the truth!). Dr. Ross suggested I make something that takes less time next time. This was the last straw. She wants me to shirk my true duties as an ASC to come in and do HER job, so SHE doesn't get in trouble? I held back. But I have got to talk to Ms. Graw about this. It has gone way too far.
4. And this is the icing on the cake. Dr. Ross had emailed us a couple of weeks previously asking if someone would volunteer for an event that took place in the afternoon, during all the ASCs' hours off. Annoyed, she brought up the fact that no one had responded, and told us she needed a yes or no by today. We asked her what the exact hours were when the event would take place, and what would we be doing, in terms of tabling, etc. She did not know the answers to either of those questions. How does she expect us to sign up for something when we don't even know what it is we're doing, let alone the hours??
Arghhhh. I just feel like talking to my bosses should NOT be more stressful than corralling 8 high-school-age girls... but it is. If Dr. Ross doesn't develop some interpersonal skills soon, I'm gonna to have a meltdown at the next meeting. After all, what's she gonna do... FIRE a full-time volunteer, who she's already trying to take advantage of???
--Rebecca
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